tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1906416548844009832.post5596023596307739521..comments2012-02-15T17:13:17.777-05:00Comments on Mommy Needs Her Coffee: There's a saying...*Laura*http://www.blogger.com/profile/05057334920291464272noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1906416548844009832.post-49037760110495785422011-08-17T16:10:51.630-04:002011-08-17T16:10:51.630-04:00I realize I'm about six weeks late to this pos...I realize I'm about six weeks late to this post. But thank you for writing this! I think you are exactly right: each person must find her/his own life. She/he is the one who must live it, must make choices concerning it, etc. No matter how much others may like to dictate that for us. For some it means school. For others it means an apprenticeship out of high school. For others, it means a break from either. I believe we are so uncomfortable with others' choices because they are not ours. We become defensive. We perhaps see a glimpse of freedom or opportunity that we did not pursue. Regardless, it is never a good idea to operate out of one's defenses. I think you did an excellent job of maintaining healthy boundaries here--recognizing the situation, your life for what it is. And your life is beautiful; it is changing; it is yours.leahknoxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03235292699899526996noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1906416548844009832.post-19085208609113444712011-06-29T00:50:24.002-04:002011-06-29T00:50:24.002-04:00Thanks! And I agree...there's only a few years...Thanks! And I agree...there's only a few years when the baby factory/energy levels are at their peak, you have to take advantage of it, even if it means a few sacrifices. If you maintain a positive attitude and believe that you'll make it, you will. Not because of some disney storyline kind of thing, but because you feel the confidence to persevere. Glad to see I'm not the only one who chose to have children rather than a fat savings account.*Laura*https://www.blogger.com/profile/05057334920291464272noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1906416548844009832.post-33251498230938700902011-06-28T20:06:47.497-04:002011-06-28T20:06:47.497-04:00I am finding it more and more true as I get older ...I am finding it more and more true as I get older that to move toward something (anything!) you have to give up far more. And that's not bad! I chose to get married instead of living out the crazy adventures I'd planned. I chose to move for a career for my husband rather than finish my masters degree. I chose to have a baby rather than work toward "financial security." I chose to have another baby, quit my job, and try out staying home instead of waiting until it was convenient. All of that to say, I wouldn't trade any of those good things I gave up for what I have or who I am now. I'm sure people will assume plenty of things about me in a few years when I'm running around with a gaggle of kids like a hot mess... but if they have regrets for me, they're still their regrets and not mine! Good for you for loving Drew and those girls-- and good for you for going back to school! You're doing an awesome job.April Watsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10350665767997494685noreply@blogger.com